Love, Betrayals and western life style

Sensational incidents of intense love and subsequent betrayal rocking the nation from last couple of months. Recently a software professional from Silicon Valley killed his wife over trivial family issue. He doubted his wife’s character. Latter, he committed suicide by putting a reveling suicide note behind the gruesome scene. One more highly paid guy from Mumbai strangulated his girlfriend over her persistent denial on his marriage proposal. He too tried same way to culminate his virtual life but failed.
Such incidents highlight conservative mentality of middle class people relevant to their life partner when they are enjoying western lifestyle. Should they modulate their mind as per prevailing circumstances or shouldn’t they bend to glittering western life? That’s the million dollar question.
We are going to be a global in every regard. We want to work in multinationals with fat salary and fascinating work culture. However, we still have inherited Indian culture with utmost respect. But at the same time we want to live western life style entered in our country with rapid foreign investment. We want to dedicate ourselves to demanding work schedule for 24 hours leaving our near and dear one waiting for single personal moment. We want to wear western outfits to go to discos and pubs for massive drinking and smoking. We want to have physical relation with our each n number of girlfriends and strongly advocate free living relationship before marriage. We like corporate couple concept at office to facilitate our work with bit of romance. But when matter comes to our life partner, we need complete virgin wife. We don’t like wife’s close friends in male category though we keep several girlfriends entire life. We expect that she should ware Indian outfits and respect our wishes. Are these duel parameters taught by our rich culture? Should we expect lot from life partner when we are doing nothing for them? Time has come to have serious thinking on this burning issue before deteriorating our pattern of thinking.
Equal or Equality. It’s a modern mantra of 21st centenary. Girls and women have rolled out of their safe habitats to work shoulder to shoulder with their men counterpart. They are striving out to strengthen their cause. They are taking equal responsibility of family affairs even in financial matters though they dream luxurious and comfortable life. Guys too like working wife so that they should be able to afford costly life style.
It means we are ready to extend equality in every regard but so far as freedom is concern we remain conservative in every corner. We can’t change our mind in one day. It will take its requisite time. And even hundred percent transformations are not expected in order to preserve Indian values. Now, we may feel that we have stick in rigid culture and western clutches. Our status of mind doesn’t allow us to allocate free hands but middle path has to be finding out for safe voyage. Other wise our life will become complete mess of affairs.
Betrayals always remain undesirable due to evident consequences. When our friend or office mate breaches our trust, we lose self confidence to trust anyone while dealing with them. We start thinking that life is very demanding to become selfish and self centric. We too resort to betrayals rather than identifying virtues of friendship and relations. How can we expect lot from other when we are doing nothing for them? They have to be selfish, dishonest for their own gains like we have. We need to understand ourselves thoroughly before unnecessarily blaming others on trivial things and matters.
We always underestimate all girls and women are in our life. We feel that they don’t have proper knowledge, understanding and thinking capacity at par to present life. And this common Indian mentality makes our case more vulnerable. And if any girl betrays us, we start blaming her and like to take revenge by any suitable way. The feeling of rejection kills us at every quarter of time. We start maligning females to satisfy our burning mind.
Not only girls but also boys have to be practical in present corporate life. Girls have their priorities and flout very less importance to physical relations. Sometime they physically, emotionally come close to you but their desire to spend luxurious life style, roam around the world may change their decision in getting engage permanently. And while growing, some girls witness lot of financial crunch which prove importance of money. Girls love luxurious life style they got to see in surrounding. Such things matters while getting engage for entire life. Extramarital affairs are just for pleasure and for small gain as they come to very usual part of physical relations after marriage.
Boys too bend at their knee, if they get rich girlfriend who spend on every gala time. They too flout multiple affairs to boost up frequency in physical relation. It means they too are guilty somewhere like girls.
So, before blaming someone take some time to think about you. What you have done for them.